Do you pay due attention to a fulfilling sex life? What is the role of sex in your relationship? In the article I will give examples from private practice, the results of working with clients, as well as research data from specialists. Scientists, psychologists, sexologists and even esotericists talk about the benefits of sex. Moreover, there are nuances to which you should pay attention.
You can talk about a full sexual life when a woman and a man are ready to make love with each other with pleasure when a desire arises, without persuasion and claims. And this is already the path to a happy family. While pretending sex may help maintain your physical health and hormones, it can destroy the relationship emotionally.
A woman who directly says what she wants, as soon as she has a desire, becomes insanely attractive to men. She gently guides her partner, tells when a gentle approach is needed, and when – a hard and rude one (everyone has the right to their fantasies and their satisfaction). She opens up to the man without hesitation, allowing herself to be brought to orgasm.
Sex has tremendous potential. The more open and relaxed a person is in sex, the more successful he is in all spheres of life.
Next to such a woman, a man begins to get real pleasure from the process. And only when the woman is completely satisfied, the time comes to give an unforgettable orgasm to your partner.
Sex in which both are respectful of the desires and fantasies of the other, as well as enthusiastically satisfy each other’s sexual needs, has tremendous energy potential. For the realization of fantasies, the modern industry offers a wide selection of erotic products. You can try role playing, using toys, kinky schoolgirl or vampire lady costumes – it’s all a matter of taste.
The more open and relaxed a person is in sex, the more successful he is in all spheres of life. I follow this pattern in 99% of clients.
Does it matter when to have sex?
In the morning, at night, or how will it turn out? There is no right answer to this question. It turns out for everyone in different ways, due to life circumstances. But let’s consider the positive aspects of morning sex.
It so happened that in most cases, the time for sex is set aside before bed. Many are forced to do this by a family situation: it is necessary to complete household and work chores, communicate with loved ones, wait until everyone goes to bed, and, finally, make love, if you are not already on your feet.
The most useful sleep lasts from 22:00 to 24:00, and after 2:00 the “utility” coefficient begins to decline sharply. So what are we doing? Tired physically and emotionally for the day, when the body tunes in to sleep to restore vitality, the heartbeat slows down and calms down, we remember that there is such a thing as marital duty. In this situation, we can safely assume that sex will not turn out to be the most successful.
Lack of sleep and anxiety will shorten the duration of intercourse and worsen its quality
Against the background of general fatigue, it is difficult to realize and satisfy your own and your partner’s sexual needs, sex may not be intense enough, and orgasm may not be bright enough. This can lead to chronic sexual dissatisfaction. Moreover, nighttime loads exhaust the body even more, and from accumulated fatigue, sex is more associated with loss of energy than with pleasure.
Over time, this can lead to irritability at the mere mention of him, as well as to quarrels, resentments, ailments, reproaches for any reason and, as a result, even greater loss of energy, understanding and love.
Besides the physical aspect, there is also a psychological one. To fully satisfy sexual needs, partners need to concentrate on the process and completely immerse themselves in it. This can be problematic, since a lot of information and thoughts accumulates in the head during the day, which makes it difficult to focus on sex.
With regular lack of sleep, partners begin to get nervous, rush and save time, which, on the one hand, shortens the duration of intercourse, and on the other hand, worsens its quality. Many fantasies remain unfulfilled.
Benefits of morning sex
Let’s take a look at morning lovemaking from different perspectives. Let’s start with the opinion of experts. American scientists have come to the conclusion that morning sex has a positive effect on people’s living standards and success. The study found that most of the respondents who regularly make love in the morning hold high positions at work and position in society.
It is believed that sleep, which contributes to the restoration of the physical and mental state, lasts until 5:00. From whether you wake up, as usual, or an hour earlier, you will not feel less rested. Especially if you develop a good, positive habit and do it with pleasure.
From the point of view of the body’s work, it is much more useful and effective to go to bed an hour earlier so that the body, soul and head are fully rested and recovered, and to get up an hour earlier to make love with enthusiasm. The whole world is awakening from sleep, and so is your body.
When a woman’s body is more responsive to affection, and a man will react more confidently. At 7 a.m., the two-hour period of maximum testosterone levels in men begins. Thanks to this, he will more boldly show himself in sex, and the woman will be able to fully enjoy the process.
Compared to nighttime sex, morning sex is less energy-intensive. Emotionally, you feel fresh, your head is still empty, and nothing prevents you from enjoying each other. After sleep, the state is magical and intimate, you can tell each other without hesitation what and how you want, and immediately proceed to implementation.
When it was possible to introduce morning sex into the schedule of the day, the overall emotional state improved significantly.
You ask, is there anything else about morning sex besides pleasure and an unforgettably pleasant awakening? Of course yes! In the morning, sex puts a good load on the main muscle groups, and also replaces breathing exercises, which improve blood circulation. This is exactly what you need for a full start to the day. A powerful release of endorphins also occurs, immunity and stress resistance increase, the risk of various ailments decreases.
Thanks to customer feedback, I was able to trace a certain pattern. Often, the root of many women’s problems lay in issues of sexual dissatisfaction, which were observed among business women and socialites, as well as housewives. Problems with sex were on the surface or were hidden behind other complaints from patients.
In those cases when it was possible to introduce into the schedule of the day such a pleasant ritual as morning sex, the overall emotional state improved significantly, and the work was easier with other questions.
Clients felt a surge of energy, good mood, inner peace, increased stress resistance. At home, communication became warmer, love, respect and mutual understanding returned. The children looked calmer and more benevolent, they were open in communication with their parents: the child’s behavior was influenced by the fact that in the morning and in the evening he saw happy and calm parents, felt energy, confidence from them, and was filled with this state.
Is it possible to say that morning sex is a panacea? Probably no. But it’s definitely worthwhile and can be turned into a daily ritual that changes your life for the better.
about the author
Anna Yasnitskaya is a sexologist, psychologist, founder of a training center, an expert on relationships and personal growth.